The Anti-Perfect Parent

A Guide to Helping Parents Transform Feelings of Overwhelm, Guilt and Isolation to Feel More Grounded and Accepting of Themselves and Their Child

You might be thinking…

Parenting is not all it’s cracked up to be.

As a parent or primary caregiver, you may be feeling overwhelmed and isolated, often leading to feelings of shame and guilt.

You may feel like you’ve lost control of your child, of yourself, and spend most of your time feeling lost, burdened, confused, and conflicted. You want to be a patient, compassionate and attuned caregiver, but are struggling to get there.

You read articles and try different techniques, attempting, striving to be that perfect parent. And when you come up short, you feel like a failure.

You are not alone.

In my decades of experience working with families, I’ve seen hundreds of parents and caregivers in your exact same position. It’s incredibly challenging to care for and regulate your children while feeling overstimulated and dysregulated yourself.

But I'm Here to Help

I’m Dafna Lender, and I’m a family therapy expert and attachment specialist as well as an international trainer and supervisor for practitioners who work with children and families.

I specialize in treating children and their parents, including those with ADHD, anxiety, learning disabilities, behavior outbursts, as well as those exposed to chronic mental illness, attachment wounds, and other forms of trauma.

From all this experience, I know how difficult it is to parent in these modern times, especially when your child(ren) has needs and challenges outside of your knowledge and experience.

That's why I created The Anti-Perfect Parent.

This online course will help you to form secure attachments, increase patience and compassion, and feel fully present with your children. You will learn the skills you need to transition from burdened and overwhelmed, to grounded and calm.

Perfection is a myth. It's time to embrace the messiness.

I really appreciate Dafna's direct, no nonsense approach to putting children's needs first while also being empathetic to parents. It's a tricky line to balance and she does it skillfully.
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I appreciate [Dafna's] non-judgmental, affirming nature.
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I have often been discouraged by parenting courses and family therapy before, because it also feels like it all falls to the parent (specifically the mom) to “fix” it or make changes to see improvements. While Dafna recognized you can only change yourself and not your child, it didn’t feel discouraging at all. She recognized how challenging it is, and I appreciate that.
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Curriculum

Here's what we'll cover in the Anti-Perfect Parent:

Module 1

Understanding Your Emotions

Module 2

Understanding Your Child’s Behavior and Your Reactions to That Behavior

Module 3

Building a Stronger Parent-Child Relationship

Module 4

The Process of Connection, Rupture and Repair

Module 5

Navigating Complex Situations

Module 6

Seeking Support and Resources & Reflection

FAQs

My child(ren) is neurodivergent/physically disabled/suffers from PTSD/etc. Is this course for me?

Absolutely! This course aims at helping ALL parents and caregivers self-regulate and show up for their children with patience and compassion. The course language and curriculum is inclusive of all children and parents, regardless of psychology, history, and family structure.

My co-parent and I would like to attend together, do we need to sign up separately?

I’m an educator, child development professional, therapist, social worker, parenting coach, etc. and want to take the course to help my patients/clients. Can I sign up?

My question isn't addressed here.

“Dafna’s delivery has been so refreshing. She has a way to make taboo subjects seem not so. And, unlike other parenting trainings I’ve done, I don’t leave the class with a huge sense of guilt for what I’m not doing right."
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Dafna has a wonderful way of explaining things that I have heard before but never fully grasped or have a renewed way of thinking about it.. like that 'Aha' moment.”
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“I feel like every parenting book, podcast, etc talks about the important of consistency BUT it was so refreshing and ACCURATE for someone to say external factors change, so you might need to change. It was an “ah ha” moment for me.”
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“My relief is that Dafna is willing to travel the off track & backroads of parenting with us. All the potholes, bad turns & lost moments...I am relieved to find Dafna, an off road parenting expert, familiar and not horrified with the road less travelled and willing to support our experiences.”
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Ready to be the patient, compassionate, and grounded caregiver you always wanted to be?

Become the Anti-Perfect Parent

E-course launching soon!